With henna-stained hands, 17-year-old Sona, a resident of Tagarpar village of Majhgawan block in Satna district of Madhya Pradesh, walked out of her mehendi ceremony and called off her wedding. This was unprecedented for a girl from the village. While her single-room mud house was still buzzing with guests, her parents supported her decision nonetheless.
Sona had consented to the wedding earlier but was unaware of
the consequences of child marriage as her grandmother, mother and maasi
(maternal aunt) were all minors when they got married.
Sona's maternal aunt played an instrumental role in Sona
calling off her wedding two days before the ceremony. "My maasi told me
about her ordeal and how she was forced to give up her studies when she got
married as a teenager. She is suffering from chronic anaemia for 15 years as
she had her first child when she was 16, two years after her wedding. She is
living in extremely difficult conditions as she has six children now, her
youngest being seven months old. She asked me to say no to the marriage else I
too would have faced a similar fate," said Sona.
Sona's maternal aunt, Rekha Bai (32), revealed doctors have
been advising her against having more children but her husband, who is a
labourer, doesn't feel the need to undergo vasectomy.
"They wanted to get me married as soon as possible as
they did not have enough income to feed another mouth. My in-laws didn't allow
me to finish my studies and I became a mother soon after. I will not let my
nieces and daughters face the same thing. If only I had continued my studies,
my life could have been different," she said.
Sona, seeing the plight of her aunt, and having someone who
thought of her instead of succumbing to social pressure, decided to follow her
aunt's advice.
Minta Bai, Sona's mother, said she was happy her sister
stepped in to advise her daughter. She mentioned that Rekha regretted giving up
her education and it resonated with Sona. "It was very bold of her to make
this decision. My husband and I decided not to put pressure on her," she
said, adding that she had to convince other family members to put off Sona's
wedding.
Shiv Kailash Mawasi, a local activist, said he visited Sona's
place the previous week and was informed of her wedding. He had tried to
convince Sona's parents against the marriage citing Sona's age.
"I'm happy to see Sona's courage and her maasi, who was
able to convince the whole family about the decision to let Sona study
further," he said.
"She is good in studies, and I told her if she would
pursue higher education, she can change the fate of her family," Shiv
added.
The condition of the district is mediocre in terms of family
health. Most of the problems in the rural area are associated with early
marriage, anaemia and malnutrition. According to the latest report of the
National Family Health Survey, 40.3 per cent of women of the district in the
age group of 20-24 years were married before the age of 18 years.
It was found that 4.9 per cent of women aged 15-19 years had
already become mothers or were pregnant at the time of survey and 73.4 per cent
of the children in the district between the age of 6 months to 59 months were
anaemic. About 48 per cent of non-pregnant women in the district between 15 to
49 years of age were found to be anaemic, while the percentage for pregnant
women of the same age group was as high as 61.9 per cent. The statistics show
the poor condition of health care and lack of awareness in the district.
Child marriage is deep-rooted in the psyche of residents of
the village and Ramkalia Bai, Sona's maternal grandmother, was no different.
She got married when she was a teenager, and she laments her daughters too had
early marriages. She cited the lack of awareness as a reason for child marriage
of her daughters. She pointed out that she would never have gone ahead with
Rekha's wedding had she known her daughter would become sickness-prone and her
grandchildren malnourished.
"I am happy to see that both my daughters are not
repeating the mistake I made," she said.
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